So, even though I put everything I could into parenting and my child was very academically advanced, I thought his behavior problems were my fault—that I was a bad mother. Why would God trust me with one kid, let alone three? The fact that my son didn't know how to hold a conversation (instead of ranting about his latest obsession) and would flap his hands up and down as he constantly bounced when excited, was terrified of swimming/bathing, heights, having his mouth/teeth/ears touched, changing his clothes (especially his socks), having his nails trimmed, haircuts, loud noises, and any fruit/veggies other than fresh apples or canned green beans, and so much more... This was all my fault. As was the fact that when he was scared, he would clam up and couldn't think or talk, or how, on really bad days, I literally had to drag or carry him into the school office as he sobbed and wailed—where a staff member would physically restrain him until I was gone (after-which time, he would eventually calm down and be fine the rest of the school day. This went on for several grades). Rewards and bribery wouldn't work. Threats made everything worse.
Autism Speaks has a great resource guide, tool kits, and even a lets you do a simple online screening test. Headstart was a lifesaver for us! We didn't know about it until our other two were already in school, but it helped our youngest a LOT.
F.E.A.T. (Northern California, but also has great general resources in their Document Library, etc.)
Utah County's Stride Program, through Wasatch Mental Health, was an amazing program for our kids! Combining school and parental participation, it's a thirteen week program that helps kids with behavioral and social issues. If you live in Utah and qualify for the program, this is a MUST.
Emma's Worry Clouds by Annabella Hagen, LCSW, RPT-S, should be in every family's library. It teaches kids and parents about anxiety and coping techniques in a cute, imaginative, and fun way. Anxiety has been a huge struggle for me and my family (both for those of us with autism and those without), so when I heard about this book, I knew it was going to be a must read!
Transforming the Difficult Child by Howard Glasser puts a refreshing spin on both parenting and teaching and reveals new techniques and strategies that create thoroughly positive behaviors. I can't tell you how many times the instructors at STRIDE told us to read this book! They said that most of their curriculum was based on this book's approach to parenting and teaching.
The Entitlement Trap by Richard and Linda Eyre is another that came to me highly recommended by the STRIDE program. It teaches how to raise responsible children in an age of instant gratification.
by Temple Grandin When people mention books about autism, they Temple Grandin's name usually comes up, and for good reason! :)
In this unprecedented book, Grandin delivers a report from the country of autism. Writing from the dual perspectives of a scientist and an autistic person, she tells us how that country is experienced by its inhabitants and how she managed to breach its boundaries to function in the outside world. What emerges in Thinking in Pictures is the document of an extraordinary human being, one who, in gracefully and lucidly bridging the gulf between her condition and our own, sheds light on the riddle of our common identity.
Look me in the Eye by John Elder Robison, a "darkly funny memoir" of a man's experiences living with autism.
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